Even if you are dating just for fun, to meet different types of men and experience new adventures, you want to be clear on the type of man you want to attract.
There is always a possibility that a date will turn into a long-term relationship.
By the time most men divorce they have felt beaten up by their spouse, their kids, and the court process. Their views on love and relationships may be shattered.
To combat this, most men would be best served creating a narrative that puts a positive spin on things.
These thoughts may have created an energy field around you that is literally repelling love.
Worse yet, this field of thoughts is sending out vibrations that attract the wrong type of guy or none at all.
Even if it was a horrible process and divorce wasn’t the desired outcome, the positive look can be something like “I put my all into the marriage, and even though this relationship didn’t work out, I know that I can be a good partner to someone”, or “we had many good years together, but as time went on we grew apart”.
Recently a client said to me “I’ve been out of the game for 25 years, all of my friends are married, I feel like a loser since my wife left me, and you expect me to ask someone out.” Well, not exactly, there are some steps that one can take to make the process easier: 1) Develop your divorce story.
When you're thinking about dating after divorce, advice and tips always come in handy, especially if it's been a while since you've been in the singles scene. But, what if these words could help you find love again? You want to be loved, but I'm willing to bet that just thinking about relationships triggers painful memories.
To help you get started on the right track, the following article can help you find the right man for you. You may be subconsciously thinking about the past in a way that may be keeping it alive in your mind or you may be fearful of the future.
Write a list of the characteristics and qualities of your perfect man.
Complete another list stating things that are totally unacceptable to you. If he does not fit the bill, do not make a second date.
If you jump back in with both feet you may find that dating isn’t like “riding a bike.” If it’s been a while since you have dated you are going to need to fine tune those old dating skills a bit. So, I’ve put together some tips on how to help you get back into the dating game and enjoy your new found freedom. The subject of your divorce is bound to come up and when it does keep it brief and focus your attention on your date and having a good time in that moment. Keep in mind that your date is probably anxious also and wanting to make a good impression.