It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation.
Many of these different forms of domestic violence/abuse can be occurring at any one time within the same intimate relationship.
The adage, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" should long ago have been relabeled: "The biggest lie in the world! Recently, one of my relatives confided to me, "I've just realized that I've been verbally abused of my married life. I didn't know what it was, much less, what to do."As I talked with Georgia (not her real name), I heard what had been happening behind closed doors – for decades. You can't change the abuser, but you can remove yourself from frequent exposure to unacceptable behavior."I want to be with you, but if you call me any kind of name again, I will leave for a time. If you persist in making that accusation, I will end our conversation. If you choose to use profanity, I will choose to be with others where we can share positive, healthy conversations."#3: Enforce the consequence every single time the abuse occurs. The abuser needs to know that you will follow through consistently. Eventually, there's a good chance your abuser will stop …
Ultimately, the longer we to live in an emotionally abusive relationship, the more we're inclined to view an abusive lifestyle as "normal." Then we find ourselves living fear-based lives, being powerfully manipulated by our abuser.." I shared with her the following six-step strategy:#1: Clearly state what you are willing to accept and are not willing to accept from the abuser. but only after the behavior proves to be ineffective.
Names, particularly if they are hurled at you by someone who claims to love you, can be terribly painful.
We change — our opinions, personalities, careers, friends and much more. Others are more conscious, and they have to be, like overcoming an addiction or correcting a personality flaw that’s harmful to ourselves or others.
If you’re the one wanting a loved one to change, it can feel impossible — but we hold onto the hope that they change, because we desperately want them to, because we remember how they were different in the past (and if they changed for the worse, can’t they change for the better? While people to and be committed to all aspects of change in order to begin to do so — and even then, it’s a lot easier said than done.
No one likes to be called names, even when it’s innocent teasing by friends.
The increased awareness of bullying behavior has brought this warning sign more attention.
In this series of articles, we will explore each warning sign in more depth so that you will have a better idea about what each sign means and if you need to address a problem in your relationship.