As we grow into adolescents, we rely less on parents and more on our friends to help us define ourselves and our boundaries or limits in relationships.If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, then chances are you have not learned how to set a boundary or even really know what it is.I’m that girl who reads almost every relationship book on the Christian market. I’m that girl who loves Jesus, and fervently desires to get married, have children, and continue to serve in ministry for the rest of my days.But these good, God-honoring desires have been, by and large, unfulfilled. At times, I’ve felt overlooked and like I was missing out on all the fun of dating.
The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, of course, to protect and take good care of you.A successful relationship is composed of two individuals - each with a clearly defined sense of her or his own identity.Without our own understanding of self, of who we are and what makes us unique, it is difficult to engage in the process of an ongoing relationship in a way that functions smoothly and enhances each of the partners.Boundaries come from having a good sense of our own self-worth.They make it possible for us to separate our own thoughts and feelings from those of others and to take responsibility for what we think, feel and do.
In other words, by watching how others handle relationships.