They have various expressions for the act; rouler une pelle — to turn the spatula — is particularly popular.Madame Figaro reminds French women in the States to not send the first SMS after an encounter, so as not to seem “desperate”.I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local.The mystique of the French woman tends to be a hot-button topic that evokes strong opinions.Either to debunk what is dismissed as a trite cliché or to admire it as a standard to be mimicked, the debate that French women are superior in regard to style and disposition will undoubtedly remain open for discussion.
The French, incidentally, don’t linguistically fob off their slobberier makeouts as an import.
The word déïte — as the French phonetically spell it — doesn’t have an exact translation. “I would try to tell [American] guys, ‘I’m French; I don’t date,'” says a French expat in California, interviewed by Madame Figaro, “but it didn’t work.
They needed everything to be explicit” — in terms of whether or not an outing was officially a date.
It is indeed complicated to explain the ambiguous, complicated and often opaque process by which French men and women pair off.
“It just kind of happens”In the words of 36-year-old Laurence Bagot, a French journalist who spent a year at Harvard and admits she is as mystified by American dating habits as the Americans are by the French ones: “In France, getting together just kind of happens.” In a nutshell, everyone kind of seems to think that getting together in France just kind of happens! And the funny thing is that even when people are together, you rarely know what their relationship is.
Multi-dating (even if it is still ‘the beginning’) is grounds for termination for both men and women.