And while we love checking them out on the quad—whomever created “shirts versus skins” deserves a national holiday in his or her honor—we can’t help but think that college guys still have some growing up to do.
With seniors, grad students, and working 20-somethings to swoon over, dating an older guy is an appealing option.
Women's rights, gay rights—the younger a guy is, the more evolved he is. But during our fifth date, over burgers and beers, he asked sheepishly, "Do you know how old I am?
" It turns out he was 41, a whopping 13 years older than me. After four decades of life, Alex is a walking encyclopedia.
In so many ways, a guy is a guy is a guy and some of the details that I thought would matter often don’t.
I was asked recently, to comment on the differences between dating an older man and a younger man.
I was single, and thought, “Well, I have to do this anyway, so why don’t I do it for real? I got an avalanche of responses, and to my surprise, the majority of them were from younger men. ” and I’ve been very happily dating younger men ever since. I have never wanted to be married, I’ve never wanted children, and I don’t want to be in a relationship in the conventional sense.
They may go on to date women their own age, or to move to different places, but we stay friends. And then every so often, their relationships end, and they return to me. When lots of stamina (and blissfully short recovery periods) meets confidence and experience, it’s a terrific combination.“While I like to have fun, I also like serious conversation every once in a while,” says Rachel*, a college graduate who dated a 19 year-old during her mid-twenties.“His maturity was next to none.” We’re not accusing your younger boy toy of being incapable of having a serious conversation; however, it’s important to recognize that the two of you are at different places in your lives.If I want to really generalize about the younger man/older man thing, I’d say, loosely, that the older guy is “old school”, and has less flexible thinking about the role of men and women and the way they should behave in a relationship, so I, from time to time, “let him be the man”, I.e., letting him do things for me that I’m perfectly capable of doing myself…and being really grateful for it! Just because I’ve seen more doesn’t mean I should always tell him what to do.That will be the kiss of death for any healthy relationship.
Of course, these are all generalizations, so there’s no need to write me to point that out.